Truth is, love exists from the inner core of each human being and living thing. It is always present. For some of us it is so deeply sealed by layers of hurt, pain and low self worth it seems impossible to retrieve. It may feel this way but this is not true. This article will cover some secrets about yourself you already knew before entering into this world. I am here just to remind you of it.

So let’s begin the basic process, and the secrets to radiate your soul back to life.

Say NO To Self Criticism Self criticism is that negative internal dialogue inside out minds intoxicating the soul because it lowers our self-esteem. Calling yourself fat, ugly or stupid are limiting our beliefs and stopping us from living a full abundant life. To stop self criticism, the simple answer is to be aware. Be aware of your thoughts, make a choice by turning it into something that is constructive and kind.

Seek Positivity In Everything You See And Do The wonderful thing about having a mind of your own is you have the power to change your thoughts by turning negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Learning to be positive is a skill to train your brain. Believe in yourself, know you can achieve your goals, praise yourself daily, focus on what you do want to manifest in your life, surround yourself with positive people.

Embrace The Power Of Forgiveness Making mistakes are inevitable. It is part of being human. It is essential to help us grow, and we’ve all made some in the past. Let go, forgive yourself since there is really no point carrying it with you because all it is doing is crushing your soul.

Kill The Negativity With Positive Affirmations Using positive affirmations and repeating it daily, out loud or internally can help your self-esteem grow. For example, you can repeat ” I love and accept myself just as I am unconditionally” several times a day. For more examples, click here.

Take Time Out To Be Grateful Be grateful for your uniqueness you’ve brought fourth into this world. Write a list of all the things you like about yourself. This can be as simple as having the lungs to breathe in air, for the eyes to see, for the home you have.

Let Go And Relax You need to take time out and spoil yourself once in a while. Take long baths, facials, relax at the beach. Absolutely anything that makes you feel at peace by doing something for you.

Be Good To Your BodyYou’ve heard the saying  “A healthy mind is a healthy soul”. Treat your body with love and care. It is important to keep yourself physically fit and healthy by feeding it good nutritious food and daily exercise to reduce stress, obesity and disease. Your body helps you in more ways than you are really aware so do yourself a favour a be good to it as you only have one body and not two.

Live your life with no regrets is a motto we should all be willing to seek. It is useless ruminating over the past and leading to thoughts like “if only I did this” or “if only I did that”. Fact is, the past has come and gone and there’s no point thinking about something which cannot be changed. Like everyone else, every once in a while we make mistakes. This article will help unburden the past to whatever it is stopping you from doing the things you truly desire and it will allow u to see it wasn’t all bad.

“Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can’t accept your imperfections, that’s their fault” – Dr. David M. Burns

Failure is a matter of perception. In every situation there is a positive light. Mistakes are good for us, as they are there to help as learn to grow. For every mistake we make brings us further to understanding and accepting of ourselves so we can teach other people. It is a series of lessons, advancing  us to a higher way of living and loving. This is a gift. There is no use for being born with the perfect body, mind, spirit and experiences. What good would that do? What would you be able to learn from it? Life will get boring.

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes”- Mahatma Gandhi

The mistakes we go through are the exact experience we need to become who we are today. Don’t let yourself get soaked by the negativity of it all. Don’t feel terrible, and don’t call yourself stupid. Instead recognise the experience for what it is. Accept it, appreciate it, and consider what happened and why it happened the way it did. Learn from the events and move on. Be grateful you had a chance to learn something new. Life is what it is, it’s all about choices and all choices come with mistakes. Mistakes bring out the light in you, they present wisdom.

“Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experience”- Denis Waitley

The more mistakes you make, the more wise you will be. So next time you make a mistake, smile knowing you will only get smarter and knowledgeable because of it.

To explain how affirmations work, it is necessary to understand these are only learnt through thought pattens developed through childhood through other people’s beliefs systems. Some of these work well but most are working against us creating fear from reaching our highest potential. Many of these beliefs may actually not be true or based on false invalid impressions constructed as a child.

By replacing negative affirmations and reinforcing positive affirmations you are challenging these negative beliefs by choosing self nurturing beliefs. Using positive affirmations forces us to keep focused on our inner goals and act as constant reminders to think consciously about our choice of words.

Positive affirmations will work better for you as long as you are determined to make a change and let go of your past and old ways of thinking. Reprogramming your mind will enable you to achieve the life you’ve always wanted for yourself.

You are unable to control other people’s thoughts but you can control your own thoughts. You are responsible for your own mind and how it operates. It is up to you to decide what is accepted as truth.

So how will you go about bringing positive affirmations into your life? Easy!

The most effective time to apply positive affirmations are right after waking up and before you go to sleep. During these times your brain waves are moving slowly and will be able to retain affirmations at a deeper soul level.

Writing notes and sticking it areas around your home is another effective way to reinforce these positive affirmations such as your bathroom, car, computer, mirror, and desk. The more you see them, the more effective it will be wired into your mind. The expected outcome is a change from the inside out.

Repeat, repeat, repeat your affirmations again and again out loud, internally or through recorded tape or CD’s. Also, another important fact to know is that memory is always associated with emotion. The stronger the emotion, the sharper the memory. So feel the joy, pleasure and satisfaction of the positive affirmations as though if you really do believe it.

You can create your own positive affirmations about anything in your life. Here are some examples I came up with.

Weight loss

I choose to be slim, fit and healthy

I am in control of my weight

In my mind I am slim, healthy and attractive

My body will soon follow my healthy thoughts

I will maintain my ideal weight

Self-esteem

I love myself just as I am

My life is wonderful and meaningful

I am important

I am happy being me

I feel good about myself

Money

I make more than enough money easily

Large amounts of money are coming to me

Money is attracted to me like a magnet

Being Positive

I am totally positive

I am in charge of my life

I see the positive things in all situations

Life is good to me

My life is a wonderful adventure

Your new life awaits for you. Start the change process now and watch your life unravel to a new and refreshing start.

So where do you start? Write a list of all the things you appreciate and keep it in a little book where you can refer back to when you are feeling down. What do you love about your life? What do you love about yourself? How about the things around you? What makes you smile?

Make sure you give full attention to all the things you love and cherish. Think about the people you love and write a list of the things you love about them. The outcome of this exercise will bring a positive feeling of joy and appreciation.

The things I personally love in life are the simplest things. Personally, clouds are one of the things enjoy looking at. Knowing you will never see the same cloud twice, and always seeing it take a different shape is a beautiful thing. A flower, scent, enjoying a wonderful meal, or even watching a bird are other examples. There are so many things to be grateful for… What are you grateful for?

Choosing the joy of appreciation is a humble experience. It is a powerful way to raise your vibration as it connects you to source energy.

Remember to appreciate yourself! Whatever you believe about yourself will be emitted out the universe and the universe will respond. Realise you are a wonderful person who is worthy of all the good things this world has to offer. You are beyond perfection just as you are. Focus on all the amazing things to appreciate about yourself. Know that there will never be a person like you to walk this universe and make the most of what you have right here, right now. You are one of a kind, a unique, special individual so do yourself a favour.. celebrate, appreciate and love yourself unconditionally.

Remember, If you give time to complain and blame remember the universe will take it as something you want more of and the universe will respond by giving you more things to complain about.

If you have an attitude of gratitude, you will feel great because it is a high vibration and the universe will bring you more things for you to be grateful for. As you apply the power of appreciation into your life today and everyday, you will attract more things into your life very quickly. So grab a pen, and write down your list today and enjoy each and every moment you see, feel, taste, hear and smell.

Forgiveness is a choice, a decision to let go of resentment and negative emotions. The act of being hurt will always be remembered but forgiveness allows you to soften the attachment associated with it. It will help you to focus on the positive parts of your life. By forgiving others you are also inclined to reach a higher perspective of the situation and lead to a greater understanding, empathising and carrying compassion for those who have hurt you.

Research have proven benefits of the act of forgiveness such as having healthier relationships, spiritual awareness, and increased psychological well being, less stress, low blood pressure, less risk of consuming alcohol and illicit drugs.

However, by not forgiving you are holding grudges and anger and this can affect you in more ways than you are aware of. You may carry this resentment and negative emotion into every relationship or experience and therefore not enjoy the present and let opportunities on experiencing the beauty of life pass you by. You may lose faith in others, and therefore lose friendships and family.

Forgiveness is not easy and does not happen overnight. It is a commitment to a process of change. It involves reflecting your thought and feelings to how you have reacted to the situation, accepting it and actively choosing to forgive and embrace the situation by becoming detached to it. You will no longer play the role of the victim and allow yourself to define your life of how you’ve been hurt.

That’s the beauty of forgiveness. It may not be easy but it is part of life, a journey and a lesson in life you must go through to experience spiritual freedom.

You have all heard about it but what is it really? Positive thinking means choosing your own thoughts that make you feel good rather than allowing circumstances, situations, people and other subjects outside of your body to control your thoughts. It is a powerful tool to have as it allows you to choose to look at life from a pleasant perspective and embracing your inner power to make the most of any circumstances.

So you may ask.. what is the purpose of it? Positive thinking is not used to fool you from the truth, but to refocus your attention on amazing truths that you may often take for granted.

It’s about changing your perception to see a different side of life. But it goes far deeper than that…When you create peace and harmony in your mind, you will find peace in your lives. Your subconscious mind will accept what you choose to believe.

How often do you catch yourself calling yourself ugly or not good enough, and how often do you receive the same compliments but choose to ignore them, disbelieve them or think they’re total rubbish? You get my point?

Too often I hear people such as my family, friends, co-workers and strangers all complain and focus on the negative attributes they seem to have. This is toxic to the human soul. It acts as an accumulation of worry, hate, stress, depression and anger and eventually exposes itself to diseases in the body. If only people realise how powerful their internal thoughts can be. Maybe then, if they realise the true power of it, they may shift their thinking patterns.

Developing positive affirmations takes practice, it’s a life long journey and commitment to ensure to reach a rich and prosperous life.

So when you get up in the morning and you think you yourself “Oh boy, I look terrible” replace it with a compliment. Start building this shift in consciousness with your everyday activities – seek beauty in a rainy day.

If you are around people you can’t stand, try and point out things you admire about them. If you are stuck in traffic and late for work, take the time to look around outside and appreciate the serenity of nature, or think of it as less time you spend at work. If you are at a restaurant and you order a dish that was distasteful, at least you can say you have tried it instead of saying “I wasted my hard earned cash on this!”. So quite simply when you move your thoughts to a new light the negative feelings must go.

Acknowledging that you are the  master of your own mind and only you can control your thoughts, you have the power to  create your own reality. By being spiritually aware of your thoughts, other people’s thoughts will not affect how you think and feel. A thought is only a thought and it can be changed.

You can expect changes to happens simply by seeing the brighter side to life. What is in your life right now is a reflection of your own inner thinking. Therefore, the thoughts you choose is the future you choose. Old habits can be easily broken and new patterns can be easily learnt. It just takes practice.

Many people feel happiness through brief moments in their lives as they don’t realise that happiness is a choice and a perception. For them, happiness is feeding the ego by indulging themselves with material needs and circumstancs to keep them feeling happy.

When their fleeting happiness is achieved it is then quickly destroyed and once again they feed the ego with other things. The list keeps growing. It is never-ending. We’ve all been there, giving the ego what it wants simply distracts it for a short period – it doesn’t make us feel any superior.

Today’s society is full of insecure people who want someone else to guarantee their security with love, happiness and acceptance for example. What they don’t realise is the true power of happiness requires acceptance of yourself and the world.

By changing the way you react to unfortunate incidents or situations, you develop a spiritual acceptance of life just as it is. See yourself, your life and this world as wonderful and extremely beautiful. Be satisfied with yourself and where you are right now.

Acceptance comes from disengaging from your common emotional rollarcoaster. You must realise that you are not your emotions and you are not responsible for other people’s emotions either.

The circumstances of your life are an external manifestation of your thoughts and feelings. So when you can accept things the way they are, you are free. It is because you are not fighting with yourself. You don’t have to fight the circumstance. Instead you can work on change instead of wasting your energy on resistance.

Look at the world and be satisfied. Accept it as it is. Unconditional love is acceptance. You can never be free until you disengage from life’s minor hassels. Allow life to flow freely, don’t fight it. Just let it be.

Your higher self is the real you which chose to enter the physical plane known as earth for special training. Before you started your life, you knew what your spiritual goal was, the body you will be living through, the parents you had and the family class you would be living in, what country and city you were being brought up in, your relationships and your karmic ties. Your higher self made these choices deliberately for you to experience- Nothing was by chance.

So you may be asking, what is the higher self? The higher self is your spirit that lives within you right now. People can call it your ghost, aura or soul. Your higher self is a collective mass of energy, it is everything you have ever been as far back to the beginning beyond time. Your higher self contains all the knowledge you will ever need to know. While you work together with your higher self you are able to experience a deeper understanding of yourself, the physical plane and be able to understand all sufferings at a higher perspective. The higher self can become a building bridge for you to connect with other dimensions as well by lifting the veils of illusion and see the world through the eyes of the higher self. When you have that connection you will be able to express truth and love with everything you say and do.

I’d like to think of it as this way. Inside each of us, we have three layers. The first layer is our thoughts, human mind and emotions which includes the ego. The second layer is the higher self where it is always awake, observing without judgement, and the third layer is the most interesting layer of all. It contains everything we have ever been from this life and previous lives recorded and locked in a safe place by the higher self’s recordings. If you were in a hypnotic state, you can review everything you have ever been, spoken, the experiences you have had. It even recalls your first baby words, what you were in your previous lives, how many steps it too to get to from A to B. Nothing is lost.

Your higher self is part of Source Energy which is also known as God. Source energy is beyond description, it is always growing, and has an inner desire to become more of itself. It knows in order to achieve this, it divides itself in separate parts where it will have more power and grow. Source energy is universial which means it is inside everything which includes space, rocks, stars and planets, water, metal, plants. It is immortal and infinite. Source energy knows everything because it is in all things, it knows from its own experience.

Source energy is within you-it IS the higher self. It wants to grow too, which is why your higher self is here on earth right now, to go through life challenges as a human being. You must acknowledge that you are apart of source energy, no matter what your flaws are if you recognise and accept this power within you, you will expand because you accept being a part of it.

Everyone has a story of pain, heartache and grief. If your life was perfect, your higher self would not choose to arrive to earth if there was no spiritual opportunity to grow and learn. The spirit world is a world of thought. The thought pattern a person projects in the spirit world are what you experience. For example if you’re a Christian and you believe in heaven you will see angels, and the spirits around you would be Christians as well. If you were a Moslem you would see mosques and minarets. By being dogmatic in your beliefs you will see whatever you believe in and so the spirit world has a way of making everybody right.

When your higher self chooses a body, it reviews it in great detail and is aware of the physical weaknesses its future body may have and accepts it as part of its karmic growth and evolution. Because the higher self does not see disease or disability as a negative experience, it sees it as a growth pattern it embodies and the expansion of understanding it provides. Your higher self does not choose to be reincarnated for comfort needs or wealth. It chooses a life of suffering and pain at times in order to experience the balance the physical plane has to offer on earth. It is impossible to state that others are going through good or bad experiences, it is neither since negative experiences turn into positive experiences and everyone may be at different stages, they will all be reunited with source energy when their mission is completed.

Before you entered your physical body you have been assigned to a guardian angel who are present from birth and evolve according to their services. The guardian angel ensures you complete the experience you entered and do not go off in a tangent which you may have a tendency to do. They express energy towards you giving you inspiration that would hold long enough to complete the experience. They project the energy to you, but what u do with the energy is up to you. You also have a guide working with you which helps you with your goals which is normally a close association with a past life eg. Mother, brother, lover or best friend who are always present and grow as you do.

Nothing in this universe is controlled or guaranteed for it is always expanding. When you understand the higher self and become more like it, energy flows easily and will find life magically unfolding right before your eyes. You will begin to control your own destiny simply because you take full responsibility as you know you are the creator of every event and circumstance. However good or bad these experiences are the outer manifestations of the inner you-your higher self. This connection will bring you good fortune, a healthy body, supportive environment, loving friends and the opportunity to make a difference in the world. Once you know this, you will know how to attract a life full of abundance and peace simply by breaking outside your limitations.

Having a non-attached perspective is like having a refreshing new attitude towards life itself, and it is an essential component to your unique path towards spiritual growth. Letting go is not an easy process to master at first, it takes time and patience. But once you understand the main factors you will be well on your way.

The biggest challenge of being non-attached is to let go of all the things that no longer serve you such as the roles you play eg. victim, saviour, mother or child with negative emotions attached to them. You may need to let go of a relationship, job or your way of life in order to experience spiritual bliss. Blessing them as they leave your life and embrace new ones is the key because the people, situations, and other things that have come to your life have been no mistake- they have come towards you to teach you something valuable. When they have finished teaching you with all they know, they move on while you experience new opportunities to grow and evolve.

When someone is attached, they are suffering. The more you are able to let go of the old and appreciate the new by embracing it, you are able to move through life with joy and gratitude rather than struggle and pain. Change must be seen as an exciting adventure, a new experience that you will benefit from. You can learn to cope with changes in your life by having faith and trusting the universe will deliver the best outcome there is and it is always looking out for you.

A major difficult attachment is releasing old viewpoints, beliefs and judgements which you have accumulated throughout your life as a child and brought it into adulthood. You must let go out your strong opinions and beliefs for they are all attachments that take up a lot of your energy by bringing you outside of your calm collective state. To do this, just observe the actions happening around you in a relaxed way without judgment or emotions. As you stay aware you will be able to deal with problems in a calm manner. Eckhart Tolle’s book “The Power of Now” is a must read for those who are interested.

I have mentioned this previously in my other blogs and I find it to be a major stumbling block people get sucked into. It is to detach from how others perceive or think of you. It is important not to worry about being liked, appreciated, understood or loved. When you learn to detach from needing praise, acceptance or validation you are free. This is because, people may feel threatened by your work, your personality and idea you may have and expresses it by belittling, criticising you. Take no notice of them as this is their views and judgements, it really has got nothing to do with you.

You may be wondering.. What about love? Isn’t loving someone meant to feel you are attached to them? The answer is simply no.  Attachment is wanting to take care of them and solve their problems for them. When you are not attached to this lover of yours, it does not mean you do not care for them or care less. All it means is that you are caring at a higher level whilst remaining compassionate. By remaining compassionate you are in your inner peaceful centre by not being involved in other people’s problems. It is just letting people be as they are, let them have their mess and allow them to solve them with no restrictions. It is loving them unconditionally with no strings attached and no expectations.

Another point i would like to make is, when you are attached to other peoples opinions and using their misguided feedback to control your actions and decisions in order to seek approval, you are limiting yourself by being fearful to do what you really want. You are therefore unable to fulfil your highest potential because you are strapped to other peoples beliefs about you! Think about that one.

People come and go in your life naturally, and one of the greatest gifts you can give to the world is not only be yourself but give others their freedom to go their own way. When you free others, you are freeing yourself to allow your highest potential to flow through. So, don’t be sad or worry if your friends or lovers leave you. This is a natural process since we are all standing at different vibrational wavelengths. So those who are similar to you will stay while those who are not will leave.

Releasing all attachments will bring you joy, happiness and peace within your wonderful soul. Your world will expand, amazing opportunities will develop and life is simply astounding. Being non-attached will give you freedom. You will always have that peaceful energy no matter what others around you are doing. So explore your life and make changes that will benefit you for eternity starting right now

Love, Light and Joy xx