Live your life with no regrets is a motto we should all be willing to seek. It is useless ruminating over the past and leading to thoughts like “if only I did this” or “if only I did that”. Fact is, the past has come and gone and there’s no point thinking about something which cannot be changed. Like everyone else, every once in a while we make mistakes. This article will help unburden the past to whatever it is stopping you from doing the things you truly desire and it will allow u to see it wasn’t all bad.

“Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can’t accept your imperfections, that’s their fault” – Dr. David M. Burns

Failure is a matter of perception. In every situation there is a positive light. Mistakes are good for us, as they are there to help as learn to grow. For every mistake we make brings us further to understanding and accepting of ourselves so we can teach other people. It is a series of lessons, advancing  us to a higher way of living and loving. This is a gift. There is no use for being born with the perfect body, mind, spirit and experiences. What good would that do? What would you be able to learn from it? Life will get boring.

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes”- Mahatma Gandhi

The mistakes we go through are the exact experience we need to become who we are today. Don’t let yourself get soaked by the negativity of it all. Don’t feel terrible, and don’t call yourself stupid. Instead recognise the experience for what it is. Accept it, appreciate it, and consider what happened and why it happened the way it did. Learn from the events and move on. Be grateful you had a chance to learn something new. Life is what it is, it’s all about choices and all choices come with mistakes. Mistakes bring out the light in you, they present wisdom.

“Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experience”- Denis Waitley

The more mistakes you make, the more wise you will be. So next time you make a mistake, smile knowing you will only get smarter and knowledgeable because of it.

To explain how affirmations work, it is necessary to understand these are only learnt through thought pattens developed through childhood through other people’s beliefs systems. Some of these work well but most are working against us creating fear from reaching our highest potential. Many of these beliefs may actually not be true or based on false invalid impressions constructed as a child.

By replacing negative affirmations and reinforcing positive affirmations you are challenging these negative beliefs by choosing self nurturing beliefs. Using positive affirmations forces us to keep focused on our inner goals and act as constant reminders to think consciously about our choice of words.

Positive affirmations will work better for you as long as you are determined to make a change and let go of your past and old ways of thinking. Reprogramming your mind will enable you to achieve the life you’ve always wanted for yourself.

You are unable to control other people’s thoughts but you can control your own thoughts. You are responsible for your own mind and how it operates. It is up to you to decide what is accepted as truth.

So how will you go about bringing positive affirmations into your life? Easy!

The most effective time to apply positive affirmations are right after waking up and before you go to sleep. During these times your brain waves are moving slowly and will be able to retain affirmations at a deeper soul level.

Writing notes and sticking it areas around your home is another effective way to reinforce these positive affirmations such as your bathroom, car, computer, mirror, and desk. The more you see them, the more effective it will be wired into your mind. The expected outcome is a change from the inside out.

Repeat, repeat, repeat your affirmations again and again out loud, internally or through recorded tape or CD’s. Also, another important fact to know is that memory is always associated with emotion. The stronger the emotion, the sharper the memory. So feel the joy, pleasure and satisfaction of the positive affirmations as though if you really do believe it.

You can create your own positive affirmations about anything in your life. Here are some examples I came up with.

Weight loss

I choose to be slim, fit and healthy

I am in control of my weight

In my mind I am slim, healthy and attractive

My body will soon follow my healthy thoughts

I will maintain my ideal weight

Self-esteem

I love myself just as I am

My life is wonderful and meaningful

I am important

I am happy being me

I feel good about myself

Money

I make more than enough money easily

Large amounts of money are coming to me

Money is attracted to me like a magnet

Being Positive

I am totally positive

I am in charge of my life

I see the positive things in all situations

Life is good to me

My life is a wonderful adventure

Your new life awaits for you. Start the change process now and watch your life unravel to a new and refreshing start.

So where do you start? Write a list of all the things you appreciate and keep it in a little book where you can refer back to when you are feeling down. What do you love about your life? What do you love about yourself? How about the things around you? What makes you smile?

Make sure you give full attention to all the things you love and cherish. Think about the people you love and write a list of the things you love about them. The outcome of this exercise will bring a positive feeling of joy and appreciation.

The things I personally love in life are the simplest things. Personally, clouds are one of the things enjoy looking at. Knowing you will never see the same cloud twice, and always seeing it take a different shape is a beautiful thing. A flower, scent, enjoying a wonderful meal, or even watching a bird are other examples. There are so many things to be grateful for… What are you grateful for?

Choosing the joy of appreciation is a humble experience. It is a powerful way to raise your vibration as it connects you to source energy.

Remember to appreciate yourself! Whatever you believe about yourself will be emitted out the universe and the universe will respond. Realise you are a wonderful person who is worthy of all the good things this world has to offer. You are beyond perfection just as you are. Focus on all the amazing things to appreciate about yourself. Know that there will never be a person like you to walk this universe and make the most of what you have right here, right now. You are one of a kind, a unique, special individual so do yourself a favour.. celebrate, appreciate and love yourself unconditionally.

Remember, If you give time to complain and blame remember the universe will take it as something you want more of and the universe will respond by giving you more things to complain about.

If you have an attitude of gratitude, you will feel great because it is a high vibration and the universe will bring you more things for you to be grateful for. As you apply the power of appreciation into your life today and everyday, you will attract more things into your life very quickly. So grab a pen, and write down your list today and enjoy each and every moment you see, feel, taste, hear and smell.

Many people feel happiness through brief moments in their lives as they don’t realise that happiness is a choice and a perception. For them, happiness is feeding the ego by indulging themselves with material needs and circumstancs to keep them feeling happy.

When their fleeting happiness is achieved it is then quickly destroyed and once again they feed the ego with other things. The list keeps growing. It is never-ending. We’ve all been there, giving the ego what it wants simply distracts it for a short period – it doesn’t make us feel any superior.

Today’s society is full of insecure people who want someone else to guarantee their security with love, happiness and acceptance for example. What they don’t realise is the true power of happiness requires acceptance of yourself and the world.

By changing the way you react to unfortunate incidents or situations, you develop a spiritual acceptance of life just as it is. See yourself, your life and this world as wonderful and extremely beautiful. Be satisfied with yourself and where you are right now.

Acceptance comes from disengaging from your common emotional rollarcoaster. You must realise that you are not your emotions and you are not responsible for other people’s emotions either.

The circumstances of your life are an external manifestation of your thoughts and feelings. So when you can accept things the way they are, you are free. It is because you are not fighting with yourself. You don’t have to fight the circumstance. Instead you can work on change instead of wasting your energy on resistance.

Look at the world and be satisfied. Accept it as it is. Unconditional love is acceptance. You can never be free until you disengage from life’s minor hassels. Allow life to flow freely, don’t fight it. Just let it be.

Your higher self is the real you which chose to enter the physical plane known as earth for special training. Before you started your life, you knew what your spiritual goal was, the body you will be living through, the parents you had and the family class you would be living in, what country and city you were being brought up in, your relationships and your karmic ties. Your higher self made these choices deliberately for you to experience- Nothing was by chance.

So you may be asking, what is the higher self? The higher self is your spirit that lives within you right now. People can call it your ghost, aura or soul. Your higher self is a collective mass of energy, it is everything you have ever been as far back to the beginning beyond time. Your higher self contains all the knowledge you will ever need to know. While you work together with your higher self you are able to experience a deeper understanding of yourself, the physical plane and be able to understand all sufferings at a higher perspective. The higher self can become a building bridge for you to connect with other dimensions as well by lifting the veils of illusion and see the world through the eyes of the higher self. When you have that connection you will be able to express truth and love with everything you say and do.

I’d like to think of it as this way. Inside each of us, we have three layers. The first layer is our thoughts, human mind and emotions which includes the ego. The second layer is the higher self where it is always awake, observing without judgement, and the third layer is the most interesting layer of all. It contains everything we have ever been from this life and previous lives recorded and locked in a safe place by the higher self’s recordings. If you were in a hypnotic state, you can review everything you have ever been, spoken, the experiences you have had. It even recalls your first baby words, what you were in your previous lives, how many steps it too to get to from A to B. Nothing is lost.

Your higher self is part of Source Energy which is also known as God. Source energy is beyond description, it is always growing, and has an inner desire to become more of itself. It knows in order to achieve this, it divides itself in separate parts where it will have more power and grow. Source energy is universial which means it is inside everything which includes space, rocks, stars and planets, water, metal, plants. It is immortal and infinite. Source energy knows everything because it is in all things, it knows from its own experience.

Source energy is within you-it IS the higher self. It wants to grow too, which is why your higher self is here on earth right now, to go through life challenges as a human being. You must acknowledge that you are apart of source energy, no matter what your flaws are if you recognise and accept this power within you, you will expand because you accept being a part of it.

Everyone has a story of pain, heartache and grief. If your life was perfect, your higher self would not choose to arrive to earth if there was no spiritual opportunity to grow and learn. The spirit world is a world of thought. The thought pattern a person projects in the spirit world are what you experience. For example if you’re a Christian and you believe in heaven you will see angels, and the spirits around you would be Christians as well. If you were a Moslem you would see mosques and minarets. By being dogmatic in your beliefs you will see whatever you believe in and so the spirit world has a way of making everybody right.

When your higher self chooses a body, it reviews it in great detail and is aware of the physical weaknesses its future body may have and accepts it as part of its karmic growth and evolution. Because the higher self does not see disease or disability as a negative experience, it sees it as a growth pattern it embodies and the expansion of understanding it provides. Your higher self does not choose to be reincarnated for comfort needs or wealth. It chooses a life of suffering and pain at times in order to experience the balance the physical plane has to offer on earth. It is impossible to state that others are going through good or bad experiences, it is neither since negative experiences turn into positive experiences and everyone may be at different stages, they will all be reunited with source energy when their mission is completed.

Before you entered your physical body you have been assigned to a guardian angel who are present from birth and evolve according to their services. The guardian angel ensures you complete the experience you entered and do not go off in a tangent which you may have a tendency to do. They express energy towards you giving you inspiration that would hold long enough to complete the experience. They project the energy to you, but what u do with the energy is up to you. You also have a guide working with you which helps you with your goals which is normally a close association with a past life eg. Mother, brother, lover or best friend who are always present and grow as you do.

Nothing in this universe is controlled or guaranteed for it is always expanding. When you understand the higher self and become more like it, energy flows easily and will find life magically unfolding right before your eyes. You will begin to control your own destiny simply because you take full responsibility as you know you are the creator of every event and circumstance. However good or bad these experiences are the outer manifestations of the inner you-your higher self. This connection will bring you good fortune, a healthy body, supportive environment, loving friends and the opportunity to make a difference in the world. Once you know this, you will know how to attract a life full of abundance and peace simply by breaking outside your limitations.

As you get older, you develop a mental image of who you are, based on factors like culture, influence and other personal conditions.

Your mind is kept in a state where it is constantly thinking. Most of us only make our past and future important. Your mind is always concerned about keeping the past alive, because without it who are you?

Contrary to the point, your mind is also constantly projecting the future. It says “In the future I’d like to be more happy, wealthy, healthy and find my love”.

Take a minute to observe your mind and you’ll see that this is how your mind works.

What needs more attention is the present moment. Control your thoughts and actions as of now. That is the key to setting free.