When you think about it, isn’t it true we expect a lot from people, from ourselves and isn’t it true they expect a lot from us. living up to an expectation, high standards can really make a person lose touch with their higher self. always seeking to please, or becoming angry or extremely disappointed when your expectations of another person or yourself don’t follow through.

It brings on this repetitive cycle of depression one can only be in it to really understand it. When you live up to your expectation, you are happy and satisfied for a moment till another event or situation arises and brings around the same issues all over again. I am certain you have been through this yourself. I hope by writing this post, whether or not you realise the basis of what is happening, my aim is to bring an awareness to the situation. An example i will point out is the media. The way it portrays how children should look by feeding them physical images to live up to which only gives low self worth, eating disorders and feelings of worthlessness.

Parents who expect a child to live up to their expectations of another sibling is just as harmful. All this creates is destructive relationships to the person and the people close to them, it closes down communication barriers to getting to know the person of who they really are. Every person has a uniqueness and it is exists in every single soul. It is you accepting you as you are without worrying about another persons opinion of what they think of you or how you should be or do.

Expect nothing and gain everything. Accepting yourself just as you are, and having that same acceptance for others can only bring positive change. Understanding the difference which sets you apart from the rest of the world is what makes you unique, beautiful and valuable. So nurture your gifts, be grateful for every moment. Dance in the sun and party in the rain. You are perfect just the way you are. So don’t hold back because someone once said you couldn’t, shouldn’t or wouldn’t do it. If you’re passionate about something, do it. Don’t wait, another day, week or month. Make plans, set goals and achieve what you were born to do. And that is to just express yourself by being you.

 Truth is, love exists from the inner core of each human being and living thing. It is always present. For some of us it is so deeply sealed by layers of hurt, pain and low self worth it seems impossible to retrieve. It may feel this way but this is not true. This article will cover some secrets about yourself you already knew before entering into this world. I am here just to remind you of it.

So let’s begin the basic process, and the secrets to radiate your soul back to life.

Say NO To Self Criticism Self criticism is that negative internal dialogue inside out minds intoxicating the soul because it lowers our self-esteem. Calling yourself fat, ugly or stupid are limiting our beliefs and stopping us from living a full abundant life. To stop self criticism, the simple answer is to be aware. Be aware of your thoughts, make a choice by turning it into something that is constructive and kind.

Seek Positivity In Everything You See And Do The wonderful thing about having a mind of your own is you have the power to change your thoughts by turning negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Learning to be positive is a skill to train your brain. Believe in yourself, know you can achieve your goals, praise yourself daily, focus on what you do want to manifest in your life, surround yourself with positive people.

Embrace The Power Of Forgiveness Making mistakes are inevitable. It is part of being human. It is essential to help us grow, and we’ve all made some in the past. Let go, forgive yourself since there is really no point carrying it with you because all it is doing is crushing your soul.

Kill The Negativity With Positive Affirmations Using positive affirmations and repeating it daily, out loud or internally can help your self-esteem grow. For example, you can repeat ” I love and accept myself just as I am unconditionally” several times a day. For more examples, click here.

Take Time Out To Be Grateful Be grateful for your uniqueness you’ve brought fourth into this world. Write a list of all the things you like about yourself. This can be as simple as having the lungs to breathe in air, for the eyes to see, for the home you have.

Let Go And Relax You need to take time out and spoil yourself once in a while. Take long baths, facials, relax at the beach. Absolutely anything that makes you feel at peace by doing something for you.

Be Good To Your BodyYou’ve heard the saying  “A healthy mind is a healthy soul”. Treat your body with love and care. It is important to keep yourself physically fit and healthy by feeding it good nutritious food and daily exercise to reduce stress, obesity and disease. Your body helps you in more ways than you are really aware so do yourself a favour a be good to it as you only have one body and not two.

Live your life with no regrets is a motto we should all be willing to seek. It is useless ruminating over the past and leading to thoughts like “if only I did this” or “if only I did that”. Fact is, the past has come and gone and there’s no point thinking about something which cannot be changed. Like everyone else, every once in a while we make mistakes. This article will help unburden the past to whatever it is stopping you from doing the things you truly desire and it will allow u to see it wasn’t all bad.

“Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can’t accept your imperfections, that’s their fault” – Dr. David M. Burns

Failure is a matter of perception. In every situation there is a positive light. Mistakes are good for us, as they are there to help as learn to grow. For every mistake we make brings us further to understanding and accepting of ourselves so we can teach other people. It is a series of lessons, advancing  us to a higher way of living and loving. This is a gift. There is no use for being born with the perfect body, mind, spirit and experiences. What good would that do? What would you be able to learn from it? Life will get boring.

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes”- Mahatma Gandhi

The mistakes we go through are the exact experience we need to become who we are today. Don’t let yourself get soaked by the negativity of it all. Don’t feel terrible, and don’t call yourself stupid. Instead recognise the experience for what it is. Accept it, appreciate it, and consider what happened and why it happened the way it did. Learn from the events and move on. Be grateful you had a chance to learn something new. Life is what it is, it’s all about choices and all choices come with mistakes. Mistakes bring out the light in you, they present wisdom.

“Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experience”- Denis Waitley

The more mistakes you make, the more wise you will be. So next time you make a mistake, smile knowing you will only get smarter and knowledgeable because of it.

To explain how affirmations work, it is necessary to understand these are only learnt through thought pattens developed through childhood through other people’s beliefs systems. Some of these work well but most are working against us creating fear from reaching our highest potential. Many of these beliefs may actually not be true or based on false invalid impressions constructed as a child.

By replacing negative affirmations and reinforcing positive affirmations you are challenging these negative beliefs by choosing self nurturing beliefs. Using positive affirmations forces us to keep focused on our inner goals and act as constant reminders to think consciously about our choice of words.

Positive affirmations will work better for you as long as you are determined to make a change and let go of your past and old ways of thinking. Reprogramming your mind will enable you to achieve the life you’ve always wanted for yourself.

You are unable to control other people’s thoughts but you can control your own thoughts. You are responsible for your own mind and how it operates. It is up to you to decide what is accepted as truth.

So how will you go about bringing positive affirmations into your life? Easy!

The most effective time to apply positive affirmations are right after waking up and before you go to sleep. During these times your brain waves are moving slowly and will be able to retain affirmations at a deeper soul level.

Writing notes and sticking it areas around your home is another effective way to reinforce these positive affirmations such as your bathroom, car, computer, mirror, and desk. The more you see them, the more effective it will be wired into your mind. The expected outcome is a change from the inside out.

Repeat, repeat, repeat your affirmations again and again out loud, internally or through recorded tape or CD’s. Also, another important fact to know is that memory is always associated with emotion. The stronger the emotion, the sharper the memory. So feel the joy, pleasure and satisfaction of the positive affirmations as though if you really do believe it.

You can create your own positive affirmations about anything in your life. Here are some examples I came up with.

Weight loss

I choose to be slim, fit and healthy

I am in control of my weight

In my mind I am slim, healthy and attractive

My body will soon follow my healthy thoughts

I will maintain my ideal weight

Self-esteem

I love myself just as I am

My life is wonderful and meaningful

I am important

I am happy being me

I feel good about myself

Money

I make more than enough money easily

Large amounts of money are coming to me

Money is attracted to me like a magnet

Being Positive

I am totally positive

I am in charge of my life

I see the positive things in all situations

Life is good to me

My life is a wonderful adventure

Your new life awaits for you. Start the change process now and watch your life unravel to a new and refreshing start.

So where do you start? Write a list of all the things you appreciate and keep it in a little book where you can refer back to when you are feeling down. What do you love about your life? What do you love about yourself? How about the things around you? What makes you smile?

Make sure you give full attention to all the things you love and cherish. Think about the people you love and write a list of the things you love about them. The outcome of this exercise will bring a positive feeling of joy and appreciation.

The things I personally love in life are the simplest things. Personally, clouds are one of the things enjoy looking at. Knowing you will never see the same cloud twice, and always seeing it take a different shape is a beautiful thing. A flower, scent, enjoying a wonderful meal, or even watching a bird are other examples. There are so many things to be grateful for… What are you grateful for?

Choosing the joy of appreciation is a humble experience. It is a powerful way to raise your vibration as it connects you to source energy.

Remember to appreciate yourself! Whatever you believe about yourself will be emitted out the universe and the universe will respond. Realise you are a wonderful person who is worthy of all the good things this world has to offer. You are beyond perfection just as you are. Focus on all the amazing things to appreciate about yourself. Know that there will never be a person like you to walk this universe and make the most of what you have right here, right now. You are one of a kind, a unique, special individual so do yourself a favour.. celebrate, appreciate and love yourself unconditionally.

Remember, If you give time to complain and blame remember the universe will take it as something you want more of and the universe will respond by giving you more things to complain about.

If you have an attitude of gratitude, you will feel great because it is a high vibration and the universe will bring you more things for you to be grateful for. As you apply the power of appreciation into your life today and everyday, you will attract more things into your life very quickly. So grab a pen, and write down your list today and enjoy each and every moment you see, feel, taste, hear and smell.

How you are feeling and thinking affects you more than you realise. Feelings of love, joy, happiness and peace are powerful magnets which draws you to the things you want and desire. It is the same for the opposite feelings. Negative emotions and feelings like hate, fear, anger are drawing you things that you do not want or desire. Whether you know this or not, you are constantly sending out a vibration to the universe and the universe responds.

“The environment that you find yourself in, whether favourable or not, is the product of your own life. Most people however, fail to understand this, and tend to blame others for their troubles” – Daisaku Ikeda.

 
So take a minute to have a look at your life right now! Write down your thoughts. What kind of thoughts are you thinking and how strongly do they resonate within you? Do you see a pattern of your thoughts reflecting it back into your life? Are you a miserable magnet or are you a happy magnet?

Once you know how to apply the law of attraction into your life you will attract the people and circumstances that are within a vibrational harmony with your thoughts and feelings. When you feel happy, you will attract happy people and situations. When you feel loved and appreciated you attract love and appreciation. When you feel rejected or depressed you will attract situations that will match exactly how you feel. So knowing this allows you to pay attention to your thoughts and feelings to actively create the life you want.

You have all heard about it but what is it really? Positive thinking means choosing your own thoughts that make you feel good rather than allowing circumstances, situations, people and other subjects outside of your body to control your thoughts. It is a powerful tool to have as it allows you to choose to look at life from a pleasant perspective and embracing your inner power to make the most of any circumstances.

So you may ask.. what is the purpose of it? Positive thinking is not used to fool you from the truth, but to refocus your attention on amazing truths that you may often take for granted.

It’s about changing your perception to see a different side of life. But it goes far deeper than that…When you create peace and harmony in your mind, you will find peace in your lives. Your subconscious mind will accept what you choose to believe.

How often do you catch yourself calling yourself ugly or not good enough, and how often do you receive the same compliments but choose to ignore them, disbelieve them or think they’re total rubbish? You get my point?

Too often I hear people such as my family, friends, co-workers and strangers all complain and focus on the negative attributes they seem to have. This is toxic to the human soul. It acts as an accumulation of worry, hate, stress, depression and anger and eventually exposes itself to diseases in the body. If only people realise how powerful their internal thoughts can be. Maybe then, if they realise the true power of it, they may shift their thinking patterns.

Developing positive affirmations takes practice, it’s a life long journey and commitment to ensure to reach a rich and prosperous life.

So when you get up in the morning and you think you yourself “Oh boy, I look terrible” replace it with a compliment. Start building this shift in consciousness with your everyday activities – seek beauty in a rainy day.

If you are around people you can’t stand, try and point out things you admire about them. If you are stuck in traffic and late for work, take the time to look around outside and appreciate the serenity of nature, or think of it as less time you spend at work. If you are at a restaurant and you order a dish that was distasteful, at least you can say you have tried it instead of saying “I wasted my hard earned cash on this!”. So quite simply when you move your thoughts to a new light the negative feelings must go.

Acknowledging that you are the  master of your own mind and only you can control your thoughts, you have the power to  create your own reality. By being spiritually aware of your thoughts, other people’s thoughts will not affect how you think and feel. A thought is only a thought and it can be changed.

You can expect changes to happens simply by seeing the brighter side to life. What is in your life right now is a reflection of your own inner thinking. Therefore, the thoughts you choose is the future you choose. Old habits can be easily broken and new patterns can be easily learnt. It just takes practice.