When you think about it, isn’t it true we expect a lot from people, from ourselves and isn’t it true they expect a lot from us. living up to an expectation, high standards can really make a person lose touch with their higher self. always seeking to please, or becoming angry or extremely disappointed when your expectations of another person or yourself don’t follow through.

It brings on this repetitive cycle of depression one can only be in it to really understand it. When you live up to your expectation, you are happy and satisfied for a moment till another event or situation arises and brings around the same issues all over again. I am certain you have been through this yourself. I hope by writing this post, whether or not you realise the basis of what is happening, my aim is to bring an awareness to the situation. An example i will point out is the media. The way it portrays how children should look by feeding them physical images to live up to which only gives low self worth, eating disorders and feelings of worthlessness.

Parents who expect a child to live up to their expectations of another sibling is just as harmful. All this creates is destructive relationships to the person and the people close to them, it closes down communication barriers to getting to know the person of who they really are. Every person has a uniqueness and it is exists in every single soul. It is you accepting you as you are without worrying about another persons opinion of what they think of you or how you should be or do.

Expect nothing and gain everything. Accepting yourself just as you are, and having that same acceptance for others can only bring positive change. Understanding the difference which sets you apart from the rest of the world is what makes you unique, beautiful and valuable. So nurture your gifts, be grateful for every moment. Dance in the sun and party in the rain. You are perfect just the way you are. So don’t hold back because someone once said you couldn’t, shouldn’t or wouldn’t do it. If you’re passionate about something, do it. Don’t wait, another day, week or month. Make plans, set goals and achieve what you were born to do. And that is to just express yourself by being you.

 Truth is, love exists from the inner core of each human being and living thing. It is always present. For some of us it is so deeply sealed by layers of hurt, pain and low self worth it seems impossible to retrieve. It may feel this way but this is not true. This article will cover some secrets about yourself you already knew before entering into this world. I am here just to remind you of it.

So let’s begin the basic process, and the secrets to radiate your soul back to life.

Say NO To Self Criticism Self criticism is that negative internal dialogue inside out minds intoxicating the soul because it lowers our self-esteem. Calling yourself fat, ugly or stupid are limiting our beliefs and stopping us from living a full abundant life. To stop self criticism, the simple answer is to be aware. Be aware of your thoughts, make a choice by turning it into something that is constructive and kind.

Seek Positivity In Everything You See And Do The wonderful thing about having a mind of your own is you have the power to change your thoughts by turning negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Learning to be positive is a skill to train your brain. Believe in yourself, know you can achieve your goals, praise yourself daily, focus on what you do want to manifest in your life, surround yourself with positive people.

Embrace The Power Of Forgiveness Making mistakes are inevitable. It is part of being human. It is essential to help us grow, and we’ve all made some in the past. Let go, forgive yourself since there is really no point carrying it with you because all it is doing is crushing your soul.

Kill The Negativity With Positive Affirmations Using positive affirmations and repeating it daily, out loud or internally can help your self-esteem grow. For example, you can repeat ” I love and accept myself just as I am unconditionally” several times a day. For more examples, click here.

Take Time Out To Be Grateful Be grateful for your uniqueness you’ve brought fourth into this world. Write a list of all the things you like about yourself. This can be as simple as having the lungs to breathe in air, for the eyes to see, for the home you have.

Let Go And Relax You need to take time out and spoil yourself once in a while. Take long baths, facials, relax at the beach. Absolutely anything that makes you feel at peace by doing something for you.

Be Good To Your BodyYou’ve heard the saying  “A healthy mind is a healthy soul”. Treat your body with love and care. It is important to keep yourself physically fit and healthy by feeding it good nutritious food and daily exercise to reduce stress, obesity and disease. Your body helps you in more ways than you are really aware so do yourself a favour a be good to it as you only have one body and not two.

Live your life with no regrets is a motto we should all be willing to seek. It is useless ruminating over the past and leading to thoughts like “if only I did this” or “if only I did that”. Fact is, the past has come and gone and there’s no point thinking about something which cannot be changed. Like everyone else, every once in a while we make mistakes. This article will help unburden the past to whatever it is stopping you from doing the things you truly desire and it will allow u to see it wasn’t all bad.

“Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can’t accept your imperfections, that’s their fault” – Dr. David M. Burns

Failure is a matter of perception. In every situation there is a positive light. Mistakes are good for us, as they are there to help as learn to grow. For every mistake we make brings us further to understanding and accepting of ourselves so we can teach other people. It is a series of lessons, advancing  us to a higher way of living and loving. This is a gift. There is no use for being born with the perfect body, mind, spirit and experiences. What good would that do? What would you be able to learn from it? Life will get boring.

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes”- Mahatma Gandhi

The mistakes we go through are the exact experience we need to become who we are today. Don’t let yourself get soaked by the negativity of it all. Don’t feel terrible, and don’t call yourself stupid. Instead recognise the experience for what it is. Accept it, appreciate it, and consider what happened and why it happened the way it did. Learn from the events and move on. Be grateful you had a chance to learn something new. Life is what it is, it’s all about choices and all choices come with mistakes. Mistakes bring out the light in you, they present wisdom.

“Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experience”- Denis Waitley

The more mistakes you make, the more wise you will be. So next time you make a mistake, smile knowing you will only get smarter and knowledgeable because of it.

Many people feel happiness through brief moments in their lives as they don’t realise that happiness is a choice and a perception. For them, happiness is feeding the ego by indulging themselves with material needs and circumstancs to keep them feeling happy.

When their fleeting happiness is achieved it is then quickly destroyed and once again they feed the ego with other things. The list keeps growing. It is never-ending. We’ve all been there, giving the ego what it wants simply distracts it for a short period – it doesn’t make us feel any superior.

Today’s society is full of insecure people who want someone else to guarantee their security with love, happiness and acceptance for example. What they don’t realise is the true power of happiness requires acceptance of yourself and the world.

By changing the way you react to unfortunate incidents or situations, you develop a spiritual acceptance of life just as it is. See yourself, your life and this world as wonderful and extremely beautiful. Be satisfied with yourself and where you are right now.

Acceptance comes from disengaging from your common emotional rollarcoaster. You must realise that you are not your emotions and you are not responsible for other people’s emotions either.

The circumstances of your life are an external manifestation of your thoughts and feelings. So when you can accept things the way they are, you are free. It is because you are not fighting with yourself. You don’t have to fight the circumstance. Instead you can work on change instead of wasting your energy on resistance.

Look at the world and be satisfied. Accept it as it is. Unconditional love is acceptance. You can never be free until you disengage from life’s minor hassels. Allow life to flow freely, don’t fight it. Just let it be.

Most of you are attached to families, friends, lovers, work, debt, mortage and many other things which keep you stuck at a lower vibration. Life today for the average person is like a never ending cycle that continues to keep playing like a broken record. Life gets boring, repetitive and meaningless.

When you are aware of your present moment, you are free! Awareness IS freedom! By taking yourself outside your box society places you in, you begin to see and understand things at a higher perspective. You can let go more easily, forgive willingly, love unconditionally and live your life how it was always meant to be- to live without fear, to live in the present moment, to be grateful and appreciative for everything life throws at you, and to see the positive side in every situation.

You begin to see.. whatever you do such as a lover leaving you or a losing a job.. life just is.  A moment is a moment, it always passes. Accept it, learn from it, and you will see you will grow by not being too emotionally attached.

Some of us live in a third dimesion where they believe they can see, hear, touch and prove. They are limited to material needs, fears and doubts. When you actually realise this and accept the fact that each and every one of us is responsible for creating our own reality by choosing our thoughts, words, emotions and actions that direct our life, we begin to see life in a differnt way. Life itself simply changes.

We have all been a victim to giving someone else our power to gain acceptance. The thing is, everytime we need validation from someone  outside of ourselves, it means we are dependent on them. Because we have given them the power and authority over our own soul. If you concentrate outside of yourself you cant have that power within you. You become weak and fragile. Your vibration will become lower where insecurities start to take place. You are relying and hanging onto another persons opinion of acceptance for your own happiness.

In saying that, when youre not acting to please other people, to win their love or to be accepted you ARE free!! When you dont care what people think about you, love you or hate you, you are free- you are not restricted to limitations.

You must love and accept yourself just as you are! Your flaws are the perfection of you! It is you, and you my friend are PERFECT!! You will feel the vibration within you become so powerful that you find little things that use to tick you off.. dont anymore. No one can influence you because you dont allow them to. You are centred, independent and at peace. You are serene. You will feel the difference.. i assure you.

Also to be free, you must forgive yourself and others for any wrong doings, any hurt or pain they/you may have caused. Send out the vibration to the universe the intention of letting go.

Act as though nothing you can do can possibly fail you, upset you and so on. If you face a stumbling block in your life.. see it as an important learning curve. Because mistakes help you learn and grow spiritually. How will you learn and be grateful of those special moments if nothing bad ever enters your life? Above all, have the confidence in knowing that success is the only outcome there ever is. So, whether or not you win or lose does not matter. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and try again.

Also, please note it is important for you to become aware of your thoughts and emotions and beliefs that stop you from achieving your goals and success. To help you, picture these thoughts, emotions, people in you minds as cords holding you back. Ask Archangel Michael to cut these cords for you with his sword.

With this knowledge, visualise yourself enjoying what you want in your life. When you imagine, be passionate, energetic and creative! Changes will start to happen, for the universe gives back to you the life you were meant to live.

Love, Light and Joy to you!