Having a non-attached perspective is like having a refreshing new attitude towards life itself, and it is an essential component to your unique path towards spiritual growth. Letting go is not an easy process to master at first, it takes time and patience. But once you understand the main factors you will be well on your way.
The biggest challenge of being non-attached is to let go of all the things that no longer serve you such as the roles you play eg. victim, saviour, mother or child with negative emotions attached to them. You may need to let go of a relationship, job or your way of life in order to experience spiritual bliss. Blessing them as they leave your life and embrace new ones is the key because the people, situations, and other things that have come to your life have been no mistake- they have come towards you to teach you something valuable. When they have finished teaching you with all they know, they move on while you experience new opportunities to grow and evolve.
When someone is attached, they are suffering. The more you are able to let go of the old and appreciate the new by embracing it, you are able to move through life with joy and gratitude rather than struggle and pain. Change must be seen as an exciting adventure, a new experience that you will benefit from. You can learn to cope with changes in your life by having faith and trusting the universe will deliver the best outcome there is and it is always looking out for you.
A major difficult attachment is releasing old viewpoints, beliefs and judgements which you have accumulated throughout your life as a child and brought it into adulthood. You must let go out your strong opinions and beliefs for they are all attachments that take up a lot of your energy by bringing you outside of your calm collective state. To do this, just observe the actions happening around you in a relaxed way without judgment or emotions. As you stay aware you will be able to deal with problems in a calm manner. Eckhart Tolle’s book “The Power of Now” is a must read for those who are interested.
I have mentioned this previously in my other blogs and I find it to be a major stumbling block people get sucked into. It is to detach from how others perceive or think of you. It is important not to worry about being liked, appreciated, understood or loved. When you learn to detach from needing praise, acceptance or validation you are free. This is because, people may feel threatened by your work, your personality and idea you may have and expresses it by belittling, criticising you. Take no notice of them as this is their views and judgements, it really has got nothing to do with you.
You may be wondering.. What about love? Isn’t loving someone meant to feel you are attached to them? The answer is simply no. Attachment is wanting to take care of them and solve their problems for them. When you are not attached to this lover of yours, it does not mean you do not care for them or care less. All it means is that you are caring at a higher level whilst remaining compassionate. By remaining compassionate you are in your inner peaceful centre by not being involved in other people’s problems. It is just letting people be as they are, let them have their mess and allow them to solve them with no restrictions. It is loving them unconditionally with no strings attached and no expectations.
Another point i would like to make is, when you are attached to other peoples opinions and using their misguided feedback to control your actions and decisions in order to seek approval, you are limiting yourself by being fearful to do what you really want. You are therefore unable to fulfil your highest potential because you are strapped to other peoples beliefs about you! Think about that one.
People come and go in your life naturally, and one of the greatest gifts you can give to the world is not only be yourself but give others their freedom to go their own way. When you free others, you are freeing yourself to allow your highest potential to flow through. So, don’t be sad or worry if your friends or lovers leave you. This is a natural process since we are all standing at different vibrational wavelengths. So those who are similar to you will stay while those who are not will leave.
Releasing all attachments will bring you joy, happiness and peace within your wonderful soul. Your world will expand, amazing opportunities will develop and life is simply astounding. Being non-attached will give you freedom. You will always have that peaceful energy no matter what others around you are doing. So explore your life and make changes that will benefit you for eternity starting right now 
Love, Light and Joy xx
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The article was well written and so “right on.” Non-attachment is a hard one, but such a important lesson that we must keep re-learning it, at least I must. Keep up the good work.
Susan
Dear Susan, thank you for sharing…very well said. I am now living a much happier and peaceful life since i let go of attachments years ago….thanks.
Much metta,
Anne
Hello Susan and Anne,
Welcome to our website!!!
it is always nice reading these positive comments. Non-attachment is a difficult process to go through, but by being conscious it makes it easier to let go! I too am a victim of being attached to things and so is everyone else but just by being aware the process has already started.
Much love and light to you both,
Sussan
im not so sure if it is all that hard. thinking that in a sense is like making an excuse for not letting things go!
attachment: desires upon whose fulfillment our happiness depends. – anthony de mello
all we got to do is simply..
any time we feel bad about anything, stop and look at our thoughts and judgments, our resistence to what Is.
keep listening and watching silently, without judgment.
there are a thousand other things that are there in life that you can be happy about, without the thing you think you need. the thing you’ve been conditioned to think you need.
becoming aware of how you’ve been conditioned and the fact you are a slave to these things, will allow for the attachemnts to fall away themselves. with understanding, comes freedom.
freeeedom!!
peace and joy to all
luminous blessings
Owen
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Hi Owen,
I think you are the lucky few who see non-attachment as less of a stuggle
I like your way of thinking, and you are right you need to be conscious and extremely present with your thoughts to create a space around it– to dis-identify from what is keeping you attached! Thank you for your positive feedback.
love and light,
Sussan